Friends Pt. 2
Posted by Travis Berry
The previous post got me thinking and turned into a series of posts on friendship. Proverbs has a lot to say on this topic and Proverbs 27:5-6 is one. It says:
“Better is open rebuke
than hidden love.
Faithful are the wounds of a friend;
profuse are the kisses of an enemy.”
Being a good friend is not easy. There are times in life where we, as Christians and friends, need to stand for truth. When the time to stand comes sometimes it will offend people. And sometimes the offended people are the ones we call friends. This is one of the hardest parts of friendship.
Conflict comes easy for some. For others conflict doesn’t come because they hate it.
However, everyone struggles with healthy conflict.
For myself unhealthy conflict comes very easily. I am quick to open my mouth but slow to give healthy advice to those that claim to be a Christ follower but are not living that way. In the last post I discussed that a true friend is loving at all times but I am quick to point out every negative characteristic or action they make. This can and has caused problems in my friendships.
The other side of the coin is just as dangerous. Not addressing the sin in a friend’s life can cause harm to the other person by allowing them continue in their unhealthy behavior. It also can hurt the individual ignoring the confrontation. Ignoring the conflict can create depression for not standing for their beliefs. It can create an apathy that has the potential to leak into one’s own spiritual journey. Not willing to address sin a friend’s life is not far off from ignoring sin in one’s own life.
The “wounds of a friend” shows true friendship because it is honest. It is true. And it is loving.
Are you able to confront your friends in love? Are you able to take confrontation from your friends?
I need to work in both these areas of friendship.