I’m a Christian but…

Yesterday I got a haircut. I needed one badly because I was starting to look like a hobo. The gentleman cutting my hair was nice and funny. He was making jokes and the conversation was pleasant. I spoke about my job and my hobbies but, before turning the conversation to a spiritual topic, I noticed that he had a guitar tattoo. I asked him, “So, do you play the guitar?” He answered, “Yes,” and continued, “I have been playing for a while now.” I replied, “Do you play in a band?” At this point his demeanor changed a bit. Instead of being happy-go-lucky he seemed to draw back a little. He then said, “Yeah, but probably not the type of band you’re thinking of. I play in a worship band for my church.”

I was astonished to run into someone who was active in a church. I was eager to chat with him because of the common bond that, I assumed, we had. I went on to tell him that I was a youth minister for over 4 years and played bass in the church’s worship band. He told me that his experience at the church was great so far. Then he began to share some personal information. He said, “I used to live in Hutchinson with my wife and three kids. I moved out and now live with my girlfriend in her parent’s basement. We are hoping to move out of there soon so I can see my kids more.”

I was shell-shocked when I heard him say those words. I was expecting to have a Christ-centered conversation with this man and was now I was faced with a task that has always scared me. I have always found it difficult to tell people about Jesus when they think they know Jesus. There is often nothing I can say to make them see the truth because they are certain that they know it. We chatted a little more and the barber made it clear that he left his wife for his current girlfriend. This is what I call the “but” syndrome and it looks something like this:

“I’m a Christian but, I left my wife for another woman.”

“I’m a Christian but, loving my enemies is too hard.”

“I’m a Christian but, I sleep with my girlfriend/boyfriend.”

“I’m a Christian but, I get drunk every once in a while.”

“I’m a Christian but, I…”

All the while Jesus is saying:

‘If you love me, you will keep my commandments.’ -John 14:15, ESV

Don’t be a “but” Christian.

Thanks for reading.


About Travis Berry

I am a blatantly honest person who loves to think, read, discuss, and write about God and theology. I have a bachelor's degree in Youth Ministry from Crown College. I work at a church in Houston, TX as a Youth Director and love every minute of it! I am married to a wonderful woman named Becky and we have one amazing child! I have a love for God's Word, and a fervor to live it out in the fullest, and I pray this blog reflects that. Thanks for checking out AnotherChristianBlog!.

Posted on May 9, 2012, in Christianity, Life, Theology and tagged , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 13 Comments.

  1. Yes, unfortunately in our culture many who claim to follow Christ ignore what he tells us to do. Thanks for your thoughts on this.

  2. Little Miss Wise

    I really love this! Thanks for sharing:)

  3. Great post!

  4. There is a diametrical difference between —
    A Person who claims to be a Christian AND
    A Christ-Centered Person.
    When One is a CHRIST-CENTERED PERSON….there is NO…
    “I am a Christian…BUT…”

  5. Great post! Did you confront him about his misconception of Jesus, scripture, and how it relates to the Christian walk? (If you did not I don’t think you are wrong, I trust that the spirit gave you wisdom for such a circumstance, I was just wondering if you did. How did you approach it?) That’s is not something I am really good at. Boldness…with love. I come off at times as a bit hateful and judgmental.

    • Thanks for the kind words Brent. I did not pursue the conversation much further. There were two other hair dressers there and they were not cutting anyone else’s hair. They were just sitting there watching us. I look back and wish I reacted better but I was taken back. I now need to trust that the church he will be going to will correct him and guide him to the truth. Unfortunately, he is in a public role within the church so I am not sure that he will be corrected. I pray for him though and, hopefully I will run into him in the future.

      It isn’t easy testifying about your faith and, my experience is a perfect example of it. haha Hopefully this will be a learning experience for me.


      • Agreed. We don’t want this but if he is in a public role, and he told a complete stranger, so it’s probably known in the church. What a weak generation the church clubs has become. and Honestly, when someone is at that point, there is close to nothing you can do if he doesn’t value the word of God. Don’t know your stance on it, but I was talking to a very liberal Presbyterian pastor who has a church that would be close to identical to the early church of corinth. I hadn’t even gotten into the issues of homosexual leaders in his church. But first was talking to him about infant baptism. I asked did he have a problem with performing something and placing so much weight that is not found in scripture. He said, “no. not at all.” I then knew that he had an improper view of God’s word and rebuking a lost person brings nothing productive, from my experience.

      • Brent,

        That is an interesting situation you bring up. I think I have more in common with a conservative Presbyterian than I do with a fundie Baptist and, I am a Baptist. The issue of Baptism is a big one but it isn’t the end all be all. The real issue is that he needs to leave Scripture for the plethora of other things that he would teach as a liberal and, typically those people have made the decision to leave a more conservative view for a more liberal view. That is what makes it tough to communicate with them.


  6. Reblogged this on Another Christian Blog and commented:

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