I cannot recall how many times I have heard women say, “A good man is hard to find,” or, “All the good men are married.” Personally, I think those lines are overplayed. I think a better saying, for a man, is, “A good wife is hard to keep.” With a national divorce rate of about 50%, I think my saying is accurate. As a newlywed I have a lot to learn about marriage, and I will keep on learning for the rest of my life. Being a husband isn’t easy, and marriage is not a fairytale like Taylor Swift thinks it is. Marriage is work. This is what Ephesians 5: 25-33 has to say about being a husband:
25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, 26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. 28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, 30 because we are members of his body. 31 “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 32 This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. 33 However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
Loving my wife like Christ loves his church is a huge responsibility. My wife is the greatest gift God has ever blessed me with outside of his son, and because of that, I am astonished that God would give me the privilege of caring for her. God calls me to provide her with spiritual nourishment, so she can grow deeper in her faith. He also calls me to love her as I love myself, which is extremely difficult because I love myself way too much! My pride provides a challenge everyday, and if I do not put it to death daily, it can ruin everything. Though I fail at putting my pride aside, I know that God will give me the grace needed to bounce back. Thankfully, my wife does the same, and that is part of a healthy marriage. Marriage is also putting yourself aside, being graceful when the situation demands it, and loving your spouse with the passion that God has for you.
A good woman is hard to find, but a good woman is a lot harder to keep. I thank God that he gives me the strength, passion, and love to do so.
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